Dear Mr. Principal,
I have told you time and time again, that you need to call me when things go wrong with my son. Yet you still refuse to call me. I promise that I'm not a control freak, or a parent that enjoys telling you what you can and can't do with my child. I'm a parent that cares. I want to be there to help you when my son is upset, raging, and out of control. You may think that I'm just going to baby him, or try to rescue him from his problems, but that's really not the case. I do hold my son accountable for his actions, but I also know how emotionally fragile he is, and I know that he hasn't learned to trust the adults in his life yet. For that reason, he needs to be handled just a little bit differently than the other kids his age.
I'm not trying to tell you how to do your job, but I am going to tell you what works, and doesn't work with my son. After all, I'm his parent, and I know my son much better than you do. You need to listen to what I say! You need to stop fighting me and let me come there to help you. You need to call me when you see that he's beginning to fall apart. Regardless of what you think, he isn't always going to sit in a chair and listen to you lecture him, or yell at him. Some days he's going to rage, lose total control, and lose his ability to listen and reason. On these days, he's not going to admit that he was wrong, or apologize for anything, until he's allowed to work through his anger. He needs to be able to trust that the adults in his life will help keep him safe throughout these rages, and until he becomes calm enough to allow himself to be reasoned with. Please, call me on these days so I can be there to help both of you work through this.
I don't understand why you keep refusing to call me at home when there's a problem. I don't understand why you'd want to deal with a raging child on your own, when you have a parent that is always willing to come in and help you through it. You need to relax and be thankful that there are still a few parents left in this world that are willing to work with with you. You need to assume that these parents do have their child's best interest in mind, and you need to call them for help when things start to go wrong. Please, let me come in and help you help my child. Please call me. When things are under control, I promise that I'll go back home and let you do your job.
