For all those Social Services People who think they know me and my family...
Please stop putting me down as a mom. I already do enough of that every day to last myself an entire lifetime.
Stop blaming my NON- RAD kids for the abuse they’ve taken, because in their short lives, they have seen... felt… and been through more hell than you will ever know!
Stop putting down my husband, as he has done nothing but love and support our broken family from day one.
Stop telling me you have no place to put my child as you would fear for the safety of the ones you would place him with. What about my family’s safety??????
Stop acting as if we are the ones who have committed a crime. Remember YOU are the one who chose us as his family! You are the ones who knew him, and what he had been through; not only in his birth family but also by all of those fricken moves he had to make while he was in foster care.
Don’t say that you never thought this would happen, because neither did I. Don't say you hate to see him spend the next few years in a group home or foster care, because neither do I. But, at least he’s had 9 years of a loving home, and a family who has tried their very best! At least he still has us as his parents, even if he can't live here with us anymore; because we can still be a part of his life.
Please be patient with all of us. We are all going through this Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Do hold him responsible for his crimes not us!
Do tell him that we love him, and think of him, and pray for him always.
Yet, we HAVE to keep not only him, but also his "Victims" safe too!
Do look his siblings in the eye and tell them that it's okay for them to be hurt, and upset, and confused at what they have all been through. Tell them that you will do all that you can to help them heal. Then keep that promise to them
If you would just stop trying to push us by putting us down, and start trying to help us more by making him take some responsibility for his actions; maybe then you could also help my other children by showing them they are believed and safe.
Maybe then, you could help us reunite this family.
If you choose to keep going the way you are you going, you are only pushing us farther and farther away from the son that we LOVE, even though for some reason, you like to pretend that we don’t love him!