Dear Birth Mother,
First of all, I want you to know that there was a gift under the Christmas tree from you every year for both my/your daughters. You didn't send it; I purchased it. The girls and I have prayed for you, talked at length about you and, yes I have lied to them in telling them how much you love them and that's why you asked us to adopt them.
Now, sneaky you, found my/your oldest daughter on Myspace, a site I feel should not be used by anyone under two hundred years of age. You lied to her, telling her we promised visits, then didn't follow through. You lost visitation by not showing up in court, so it came to trial. I cried when I had to testify against you, telling them that you came to visit on Christmas and asked us to adopt your daughters. I even bought you a suit to go to court as you said you had nothing to wear. Guess you forgot about that, too. You further told my/your daughter that you knew we had told her bad stuff about you, your words not mine. I have never said a negative thing about you, as that would make the girls feel that part of them was bad, too.
My/your younger daughter is currently in yet another program. She lies pathologically, is promiscuous, is the messiest person I've met, but is a beautiful girl physically. I've no idea how her life will be, but I know if I have any control at all it will not be like yours has been.
Her counselor told me this week that the lies and messiness are caused by the drugs you used when you were pregnant with her. I can't judge you for that as I, myself, am a recovering alcoholic and am not sure I could have stopped drinking even had I known it could affect my unborn children.
I resent, however, your telling my/your daughter that you have been clean and sober for ten years, since you are obviously stoned in your photo.
Your/my younger daughter has been with me since she was three-months-old. When she came she had been drinking milk with sugar as you sold your WIC vouchers to buy drugs. Her saddest feeling comes from the fact that she has no idea who her birth father is. My/your older daughter, who has the same vile meanness as you, has told her numerous times that they didn't know who her father was. Remember when you brought Doug one night and told him she was his child? Then you brought Dave the next night, telling him the same? Both men signed papers claiming NOT to be her father, so we could adopt her.
My/your older daughter just completed treatment for Chemical Dependency. When she contacted you through the vile Myspace, you told her not to tell me you wrote to her. I told her, and I'm telling you as well, that if you ever come near the younger daughter, call here, or turn up at my door, I will call the police. Now if you want to do that to your children, go ahead, make my day.
When the older daughter told you she didn't want to meet you right now, you posted photos of your two little boys on your site, with captions like "My Angels", and Mommy's Favorite Little People". That was very cool of you and when she showed me I said that must hurt. She responded that it didn't and went to her room to cry. Sometimes I truly hate you and everything that you stand for. You have eight children spread all over the area. I know the two "little angel" boys don't live with you either. Remember when you told me you'd had your tubes tied, I bought you a rose and took you to dinner. Three months later you were pregnant again. Another lie wasn't it.
Remember when you paid fifty unannounced visits to our home while the girls were still my foster children. When I testified to that fact the Judge gasped. Remember when you came the last time and they both hid? It wasn’t because of something that I did. You did this yourself.
I truly feel that sterilization should be mandated after placing two children in the foster care system. I was the biggest advocate for women's rights before meeting you and some of the other birth mothers. I changed my mind in a hurry after meeting you. You love being pregnant as it gets you lots of attention and you are a drama queen. Do you ever think about how these children suffer when you dump them in the system for someone else to raise? Do you ever think of anything but yourself?
I used to feel sorry for you, thinking you never had a chance in life. I guess I'm not the most forgiving person when my/your daughters treat me like garbage because they're mad at you. I resent it. I resent that my beautiful daughter will never walk down the aisle in a white gown because she lies, steals and cheats and will never meet the right kind of man to do this. You do make beautiful babies. Everyone agrees with that. I don't hate you but wish you would move to Asia or someplace far away and leave our family alone forever. This letter doesn't express half the rage I feel because I'm too polite. Please go away. If not for yourself, then do it for the girls. You've screwed up their lives enough.
